career growth: Self-sabotage – what is it?
The plans are spelled out, the deadline is fixed to take and do. But… Deadlines are burning and for some reason nothing is being done. There is an understanding of how and when to do, and results-oriented actions are lacking.
We do not act or do not do what is necessary, not just like that. It’s not about plans, deadlines and motivation. We do not do it because there is self-sabotage.
Self-sabotage is an internal resistance to external realization and action. A subconscious protective pattern that blocks activities that are accompanied by increased importance, responsibility, and stress.
To find out what is behind the protective pattern and what protects against self-sabotage, you need to understand. In every situation, self-sabotage appears for different reasons. It is important to learn to recognize what is behind self-sabotage and how to transform the cause of inaction.
That’s right, self-sabotage comes for you and your development, although at first glance and on the outside it seems the opposite.
When self-sabotage comes, productivity decreases:
- There is a feeling of fatigue, irritation, aggression, apathy.
- 1,000 and 1 thought about everything and nothing at the same time runs through my head.
- There is a low concentration and inability to focus on what is important to do.
- At the level of thoughts chaos – you need to do something, I do not remember what.
- In the actions there is multitasking and failure to bring to a logical conclusion, or vice versa – total inaction.
When self – sabotage comes, career development freezes and reappears :
- Immersion in learning without further monetization of ZUN (knowledge, skills, abilities).
- Depreciation of oneself as a specialist.
- Comparing yourself with colleagues and other people.
- Anger, aggression, hostility to colleagues, customers, partners, management.
- Accumulation of unfinished business, which leads to distrust of you as a specialist.
- Emotional and professional burnout.
- Desire to quit a job and career growth.
- The desire to escape from everything and everyone.
The bad news is that you can’t escape. You will not run away from yourself. Self-sabotage is an internal resistance, so running is pointless. The good news is: you can learn to interact with self-sabotage.
Few facts and statistics
85% of the world’s population sabotages unknowingly, they do not do what is important and do not understand the reasons for what is happening. It seems to them that it is a matter of retrograde Mercury, bad work and injustice to them. But believe me, there is no global conspiracy against you, everything that happens in your life happens to you. Only 15% of the population is aware of this. It does not mean that 15% of the population does not know what self-sabotage is. This means that they keep track of what is happening and understand the reasons for idleness and sabotage.
Three blocks of reasons for self-sabotage:
- The present.
Negative, traumatic experiences, parenting and parenting styles are hidden behind the causes of the past . You may not realize that negative experiences of the past do not allow you to act now, but if you have not lived and received positive experiences from past events, then subconsciously you will be afraid to do something, protect yourself from repeating a negative or traumatic situation. A psychologist or psychotherapist will help to understand this block of reasons.
The reasons for the present may be hidden benefits, lack of skills: planning, communication, negotiation, teamwork, public speaking and more. This block hides reasons that you can identify and transform yourself, with a psychologist or coach.
Fear lies in the causes of the future : criticism, condemnation, mistakes, success, change. When working with this block of reasons, you need to seek the help of a psychologist and understand at the molecular level, where did the fear and how you can transform it.
Working on self-sabotage is not easy, but you can learn to keep track of when self-sabotage comes to you and understand the reasons.
You can track self-sabotage on 3 levels:
- At the level of feelings: anger, apathy, aggression, fatigue, hostility.
- At the level of thoughts: chaos in thoughts, ignorance of what is happening, condemnation of yourself and others.
- At the level of action: inaction, postponing cases, performing other people’s affairs and responsibilities, fuss, multitasking.
What to do to track self-sabotage?
During the day, ask yourself:
- How do I feel?
- What am I thinking about?
- How does what I think affect me, my condition, my productivity and my actions?
- What do I do and why do I do it? Is it important for me to do what I do?
If when answering the questions you realize that you are doing an unimportant thing that does not lead you to the desired or that thoughts, feelings and actions about different things, then take a breath.
- What is happening now?
- What is self-sabotage about now?
- What does he signal to me?
- What is important for me to focus my thoughts, attention and actions on?
Ask yourself a question. Understand what is hidden behind self-sabotage, because it always comes for you and your development.
Take care of yourself, act in harmony with yourself. You deserve the best!